Confrontation is a nasty thing most times.
It takes many forms. There’s confronting people you barely know – someone cutting the line and jumping ahead of you. Confronting people you really know – friends acting like morons all of a sudden. Confronting yourself…
At the bottom lies an important fact. Confrontation is about seeing the ugly, naked, brutal truth and dealing with it the way it must be. Confrontation is about saying things that you may not really want to say. It’s about hearing things you’ve tuned out for so long and it’s about reality.
It’s so easy to live in a world of our imagination. To live in a world where everything is right and rosy and the things that are not, we believe will be set all right magically just by waiting, being patient and being good. This world rarely has the time or space for difficult people, inconsideration, laziness and just plain defiance. Our cocoons rarely want to accommodate the fact that some behaviors require confrontation.
You can’t really shield yourself forever. Not with imagination and softness and patience and goodness. No. The only way to shield yourself is to see the truth and confront it. Confront the behaviour. Confront what makes you unhappy. And in all due fairness, draw the line. Sometimes, it takes getting out of one’s own comfort zone and doing something particularly distasteful. But it must be done.
As I said to a dear friend today after a confrontation that was a particularly long time coming…
i have to tell her
and tell her and tell her
sometimes, i realize
its like poking an elephant with a tranquilizer dart
the dart looks huge and inhuman
but its the right size because its not a human you’re using it on
you need that kind of dose for some people
Yes, dear reader. It takes that and more for some people. People I’ve been living with in close proximity for a few months now. Who prompted posts like this one… But I’m not taking it anymore.