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Phir Mile January 27, 2010

Filed under: Nostalgia,Randomness,The Way I See It,Too Much Time — The Goddess @ 10:34 pm

Ok, so every Indian who grew up with DD has already ripped apart the new “Phir Mile Sur Mera Tumhara” video. So I don’t have anything wittier or new to say.

But what I can do for my wonderful readers is put together some of the best comments I’ve heard so far…

The makers, Zoom say, “More than 60 of India’s icons have lent their support to this initiative which has taken almost a year to create. It took more than 60 days of on-location shoot, across 15 cities of India, 30 days of post production, 22 of India’s biggest superstars, 18 of India’s best musicians, 13 of India’s best artists and singers, 15 of India’s most renowned icons to create this magnum opus. Each artist speaks of a cause and the video is shot at places which have historical value and significance.”

Evidently, it takes a year to travel by boat from Kashmir (where Rohit Bal is buying spinach) to the Qutub Minar (where the star kid is playing the santoor)

Amitabh Bachchan said,

“People from film industry along with so many other individuals have given their voices to make this wonderful song of India. I am the only person in the song who has a repeat value,”

Does that mean he’s the only one who gets to sing his lines and then say them?

Some latest tweets:

Is there any difference between Om Shanthi Om’s Title track and Phir Mile Sur Mera Tumhara? Could have used that video as well!

I feel so cheated: Zakir Hussain doesn’t shout, ‘Wah, Taj!” at the end of his bit in Phir Mile Sur Mera Tumhara.

Q: Why wasn’t Rajnikanth in Phir Mile Sur Mera Tumhara video? A: Because Rajni ‘Kant’ be seen with ordinary actors!

— could have used more role models and less models

has gotto b d WORST National Integration Project ever! D music itself is SO un-integrated!

What was SRK thinking? He looked as if he was singing to his estranged lover.

Krish Ashok has methodically dissected the video (frame by frame) on his blog here. In his words:

” This 16 minute Bollygasm will put blade like a Kiwi farmer on a sheep during shearing season. It’s a showy, shallow, cringe-worthy, slow-tempo, un-coordinated and unwatchable piece of crystalline Crappium Craptide wrapped in crapé paper.”

Do read the entire post. It’s hilarious.

What do I think? You mean aside from the fact that I’m relieved that I’m not the only one who thought there was too much Bollywood? Well, I’m relieved I’m not the only one who feels some of the actors could lip sync to a national integration type song in a mildly (or very) obscene fashion. It’s nice to know other people feel the video could have been shorter. Everyone I know (including me, of course) feels the video was a joke.

Oh, if you know any kids who’re too young to have seen the original, do them a favour and have them watch it.

But really, I agree most with Greatbong who says:

“Now I wait eagerly for “Phir Baje Sargam Har Taraf Se” with Pritam, Himesh and Rakhi Sawant.”


Accepting Applications April 24, 2009

For the post of onsite best friend.


Must willingly spend time with me instead of succumbing to academic, social or personal pressure and spending time for the sake of future gain.

Must not complain when I call in the middle of the night with intellectual, emotional, philosophical, nonsensical or whimsical demands.

Must be able to appreciate the concept of a sense of space and gauge moods.

Must consume occasional doses of gyan with a teaspoon of salt (or preferred seasoning).

Must be capable of sustaining intelligent conversation not centered around “Academics” or “People Around Us” or constantly compare life with “The Way it Was”.

Must understand that a friend is not someone who fills up time when the significant other can’t be there.

Must live within walking distance of my apartment.


Unwavering loyalty

A shoulder to cry on

An ear to crib to

A person who cares

Endless conversations

Amazing coffee!

Closing Comments:

Individuals holding this post in the past will be able to provide further inputs regarding the post and perks


Show Some Spirit! March 20, 2009

Filed under: The Way I See It — The Goddess @ 10:44 am

Do you know any inisipid characters? People who never disagree with anyone at all, never express their ideas. People who never jump at a chance, take risks or do anything unconventional.

Someone who never seems to have a personal opinion of their own, who never can handle conflict. Someone who never seems to take offence even if you insult them directly to their face (well, indirectly, but not subtly).

Someone who can never stand up and declare they’re in love. Can never run out into the rain just because it’s the first warm rain after months of cold. 

Someone who thinks twice before indulging in ice cream. Someone who can spend 10 mins of their life weighing options for a butter-like spread factoring in calories, artificial ingredients, price-per-ounce and taste.

People like that…

I keep meeting people who have many of the traits listed above (ugh! what a terrible sentence) and I end up observing them. Baffled. It never ceases to amaze me how people go through live devoid of all passion. Well, devoid of an outward expression of (sexually neutral) passion anyway.

People who can’t stand up for a cause, for what they think is right. People forever afraid of offending someone else. People who have clearly defined criteria (set in stone) for the kind of person they want to date (exactly like themselves). People who cannot appreciate the little things in life.

People who crib and whine and spend most of their time living in either the past or the future but never the present. People who can never appreciate what they learn in class, who think its an expression of individuality to consistantly criticize everything they see. 

People who lack the guts to criticize you to your face. People who make it their life’s mission to observe and anyalyze every happening in someone elses life…

People who, in short, lack spirit. Trapped in worlds of their own creation. Not understanding that everyone should be different. Not understanding the need to just run about free. Trapped by self-imposed and mostly imaginary burdens of duty and ambition while life passes them by not bothering to send a meeting request.



Annoyance and Tolerance February 22, 2009

Filed under: Life,Life in Amreeka,The Way I Am,The Way I See It — The Goddess @ 10:24 pm

So, this morning, I woke up and thought about all the different things that I have to do. I have three exams to do next week, a presentation, work as usual and general stuff around the house. Along with it, over the last few weeks, I have been involved in a musical effort as well. 

Those who know me, know how important music is to me and how much meaning it brings too my life. It’s something almost sacred to me. And for some reason, over the last few years, I gave up singing in public. I still sing for myself. But I don’t sing on stage anymore. So when I got a chance to perform this time around, I jumped at the opportunity.

Yesterdays reharsal was a disaster. For two main reasons. One, no one out there had any clarity of what songs to put in a medley. Two, no one seemed to have any constructive suggestions to make. Just a random imposition of ideas and display of their own musical prowess. 

At the best of times, I am intolerant of fake. But when I see false humility attempting to obscure arrogance in the world of music, it annoys me. Had I been a few years younger, I would have worn my boots (snow all around) and stomped out in tears. Old and wise as I am, I held my tongue and tried to busy myself with my job. There were people cutting off my singing attempting to teach me how it should be done. And that is the musical equivalent of a back seat driver grabbing your steering wheel or someone declaiming your speech for you in a bid to show you how it’s done.

I held back my annoyance, kept my patience, thanked the organizer politely and came home. All the while, I wondered if I should have let her know I found her behaviour offensive. I told myself I’m being too sensitive and calmed down.

The first thing I saw in my mail this morning was a mail from the very same organizer sending a list of flaws in our performance to the entire group of 20 or so. I am kind of old school. I believe praise should be public and criticism should be private. Being the opinionated firebrand that I am, I could keep my peace no longer and I sent out a mail asking to be excused from performing and gently pointing out that in the world that I come from, constructive criticism was delivered in a far different way.

I wonder now what it is that prompts me to react so sharply to things of late. I wonder if I am becoming less tolerant of the world or more supportive of my own boundaries. This is the second person I have been unable to get along with in the last few months. And there have been more conflicts since I moved to the US than there have been in the recent past. 

I wonder if I have changed. If I am now more annoyed and less tolerant or if I am just being more protective of myself. One of the most bitter lessons I ever learned in my life is that if you don’t stick up for yourself, no one else will. If you let people get away with behaviour that both parties know is unacceptable, they will continue to do so. But I wonder if in defendimg myself, I am looking for others to live by a value system that is entirely my own. It’s difficult to draw the line between social norms and personal values. I am led to believe sometimes that it’s ok to judge by socially accepted standards of behaviour but not by personal values.

In the end, I am brought back to the eternal question is it worth it to tolerate something unacceptable just to avoid conflict? Or is it ok to not pretend to like everyone and to get along with the whole world?


What We Will Remember of Being Young February 7, 2009

Filed under: Life,Personal Favourites,The Way I See It — The Goddess @ 6:19 am

When we’re 50 years old and watching the songs we dance to now on the oldies, what will we think back and reminisce about these days of being young? My current list:

  • We watched Sunday morning cartoons on good old DD
  • We transitioned from DD to Cable TV
  • We learned to use computers somewhere in middle school or high school
  • We marked the transition from reference books to Google
  • We started the rampant piracy of movies, music and books via the internet
  • We preferred to buy water on the go than carry a good old water bottle
  • We danced to A R Rahman songs at some or the other point in our lives
  • We started picking En-US over En-UK
  • We damaged our thumbs typing SMS
  • We propogated the Scooty family of vehicles
  • We watched the malls grow, had the first of the disposable income and effectively spawned the consumerist culture in India
  • We watched Moral Policing and Gay rights and global warming all at once
  • We (presumably) survived The Great Subprime Crisis
  • We (hopefully) reversed global warming
  • We either loved America or loved to hate it
  • We (had better have) fought terrorism and (want to believe that we) won

Quite a list! What else?


I Do NOT Want to Work With December 13, 2008

Filed under: Life in Amreeka,The Way I Am,The Way I See It — The Goddess @ 1:08 pm

So, we got a chance to name people we do and don’t want to work with on a semester long project beginning next Spring. It was an interesting question for me. Knowing as I did that I would feature on a few if not a lot of “Please not her” lists, I wasn’t sure if I was qualified to say I didn’t want X and Y on my team. 

I’m not a very easy person to work with. I like getting things done, I like quick outcomes, I re-write things I don’t like, I have a propensity to be late for meetings and in general, I’m all those things that end up yielding good outcomes but don’t win me any popularity contests. Combine that with my sharp personal preferences and it’s not a pretty picture. It’s not that I don’t want to be popular. It’s just that I can’t stand mediocrity and slowness.

So when I had a chance to choose, I thought about it for a long time. Is it right to pass judgement about someone? Can I, as a difficult team mate, call someone else difficult? Can I complain about someone else not being a good team player, not being good at meetings and stuff like that?

I thought for weeks. And when I picked names of people I don’t like, I realized, I just couldn’t get along with them. Irrespective of everything. And I finally made the decision to send out the mail today. And I feel it’s only right. Everyone has the right to choose. Even unpopular people! And as a friend put it, it’s not figuring on someone’s “Please not her” list that’s terrible. It’s landing in a team with someone you didn’t know put you on their list…

At the end of it all, I find that I don’t care. All I’m here for is to learn something and to get good grades. I gave up a job I loved, a city I loved living in, cashed in all my savings and some of my dad’s too and live away from my husband in the first year of our marriage to be here and learn. And that’s all I want. Popularity be damned!


How Honest is Too Honest?

Filed under: Life in Amreeka,The Way I Am,The Way I See It — The Goddess @ 11:07 am

I think I was in class 9 when I first encountered cheating first hand. Being tall, and being a good student, I was banished to a corner of the class where people cheated in every big or small test there was. They always got better marks than me. The teacher would come and tell us every once in a while that cheating was wrong and it’s better go get low marks than to cheat and she even made eye contact with the cheaters but they continued to cheat and get good marks.

That’s when I realized there are three types of people in the world. The first who believe the end justifies the means who do not respond to anything but punishment, those whose conscience pricks from time to time and finally, those who would never do anything unethical.

I personally oscillate between the second and third categories. I never download books for free, never download music, never watch pirated movies (except crappy ones I don’t believe are worth the money) and never cheat except in trivial and insignificant places where everyone else around me seems to be cheating and the temptation is overwhelming (after which I am gloomy and remorseful for days). I’m not really beyond ripping the CD I borrow from the library. But I always believe that the means are more important than the end. And I would never be happy with getting something I feel I haven’t earned.

I wonder why more people don’t share the same ethic I do. But at the same time, I’m not a tattle tale. I could never bring myself to talk to someone and tell them why they should nor should not do certain things. I can never preach and I can certainly not judge. I can never label people as “Good” or “Bad”.

I can label them strongly as “Like” and “Dislike” though. I am friends only with people I believe share my ideas and beliefs. I can never seem to explain convincingly that I am picky but not judgemental. That’s the reason I have such few friends. Because I’m brutally honest about my preferences. But that’s the reason the friends I have are ones I will not lose very easily. 

I don’t really know where I am headed with this little piece of mine. It’s so unlike the kind of thing I write lately. But I guess sometimes, it’s ok to feel disillusioned with the place you’re in. And to wonder about people in general. It’s painful to see such few people you would want to associate yourself with. Sometimes, I wonder about the educational system which teaches people to get good grades but not to be honest. But can you really teach someone to be honest? I guess that’s something I need to ask my parents…